Motherhood First 6 Months!
During pregnancy; I did a bizarre amount of reading. May it be grabbing a parenting book, baby scheduling from library or surfing through innumerable blogs/write-ups. Constantly formulating a list of all the must know, believing that I’m prepared and I know everything I would need to know.
Question: How much of that knowledge did I actually used? Some. Did that really help? A little.
Something so significant Rajneesh quoted: The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new.”
How my initial six-months been:
1. You will suck at it but at the same time be AWSOME about it! How so:
Every morning you will wake up to a different challenge! Your baby will be constantly changing - every hour rather every minute right in front of you. There will be good days and there will be terrible days! Some days you will do just fine and other days probably everything will go wrong. Amidst this chaos remember to be kind to yourself.. You matter.. You would be the one dealing with this all over again tomorrow, you are NEEDED! You are BEAUTIFUL!
2. Post-delivery BODY is squishy, wobbly, chubby and stretched!
Yes you read it right.. rather include embarrassing, imperfect, painful also - and it tends to stay this way for quite a while. What you have done is just incredible: YOU just gave birth to this beautiful HUMAN. Now take it slow, eat healthy food, light stroll in early days and while listening to your body include walk in your daily routine. Remember baby steps!
3. Re-design your LIFE with your baby!
The best thing you can do is; put aside all the reading and start getting to know your baby. He/she is like THEMSELVES only, not like any other baby. Only you and your partner are the experts on HIM/HER.
Start exploring your baby’s pattern to life; this will help in understanding their needs, moods, likes and dislikes - much more than any stranger’s book or family experiences.
The knowledge shall help in creating a balanced life filled with love, trust, security and whole lot of laughter for your family.
4. ADVICE - Take it or leave it!
First-time moms are always bombarded with advice; everybody has something to say. Without a doubt, this can be confusing, annoying, and sometimes downright infuriating. Sometimes it can be helpful also! It is okay to listen.. it won’t make you any less of a mother, however if you feel it’s not necessary - ZONE OUT! Only YOU know your kid best!
To be honest, I don't know much of motherhood! 6-months from today I still won’t know much of anything. It’s a continuous process of learning, un-learning and re-learning... every day! Learn from your mistakes and stay open. When you know better, do better! Try out new things, if they work - continue, if they don’t leave them behind shamelessly!
Life isn't a contest or a game. It's simply in the moment, a beautiful array of emotions. Live the minutes instead of scoring them and Love unconditionally that incredible blessing of God - YOUR BABY!